A pattern is something we repeat. A rhythm. A design we live inside of.

We understand patterns when we look at the physical: stripes, honeycombs, flower petals, and other shapes that repeat themselves. We understand them in music: a chorus that returns again and again. And in yoga, we understand them in movement: breath after breath, Sun Salutation after Sun Salutation.

But what about the patterns we create in love?

Love is expressed through repetition.
Through the way we speak, the way we show up.
Through the small, daily gestures that quietly say: this matters.

Sometimes our patterns are beautiful.

Creating a love pattern is a deliberate act of commitment, such as reading a bedtime story to your kid every night, leaving a note for your partner on the fridge, saying “thank you” (even if it is the 100th time) or rolling out your mat each morning.

Consider the practice of 108 Sun Salutations as a yogic pattern of devotion. It is a moving meditation that says, I am here. I am devoted. I commit myself.

Now there are times when our patterns aren’t so beautiful.

Sometimes we fall into the pattern of expecting instead of appreciating, a pattern of assuming instead of acknowledging, or a pattern of silence where gratitude could live.

The truth is, we are always creating sequences and existing within these systems. The question is whether they are conscious?

a moment to reflect

Repetition can deepen love or it can dull it. So let’s ask ourselves:

What am I repeating?

Is this pattern serving me?

Is it serving the people I love?

Is it aligned with the kind of love I want to embody?

This month, notice your patterns in expressions of love. They exist in your relationships, in your self-talk, in your practice.